In Consideration:

As per our conversation, everything I know and feel about Barbara
tells me she would not want anything called barbara suczek memorial,
even if that's what it was. The irony is I had just been writing an
email explaining that I could not work March 23 because there was a
"memorial" for my mother that day. I think that Mom is happy to have
people honor her, not in some obvious cliched way, nor in any LARGER
THAN LIFE kind of way, but in their own way, as she would want to
honor them. Come to think of it, she wouldn't be into the word
"honor" either. Maybe enjoy is better. I think she knew she was going
to have to deal with one last send-off
party, like it or not. As Barbara said, "I don't want a party." As
Noreen said, "I can't promise you that."
I like the idea of a wake, because it is a tradition I think Barbara
could appreciate, she who adopted and appreciated so many traditions.
A conversation or two this last year included James Joyce and
Finnegan's Wake, and so awake feels appropriate to me. More important
is when I think of Barbara Suczek, I think of conversation, the many
conversations she had with so many people from diverse walks of life.
With that in mind, I think we might call this the barbara suczek
conversation. Mom and I had many conversations recently about being
stardust (and golden). As the word consider literally means "with the
stars", we might go instead with barbara suczek consideration. In
every way, Barbara is and will always be, considerate.
-thomas